Real tools. Real change.
Great relationships don’t have better chemistry or better luck. They have better tools.
The Resilience Academy gives you powerful new tools to transform stress and conflict in your relationship into clarity and understanding.
And the first step is free.
What Makes This Approach Different?
Resilience requires a fundamentally different perspective on adversity.
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Learn the truth about stress and resilience
Stress doesn’t come from your circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances — especially thoughts about your marriage or relationship.
So resilience isn’t about being tough. It’s about being clear-headed. When you see your relationship from a different perspective, everything begins to shift.
But that shift takes more than positive thinking or acceptance. You need a fundamentally different way of handling adversity — what we call crucibles.
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Leverage the power of crucibles
Crucibles are challenges that can break you down — or forge something stronger.
Our process helps you come through them with greater clarity, calm, and understanding. That internal shift becomes the fuel for external change.
You’ll learn how to transform the crucibles in your relationship — not just once, but whenever they arise.
Crucibles are adverse experiences that make or break us in life
Crucibles are adverse experiences that make or break us in life
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Leverage the power of crucibles
Crucibles are challenges that can break you down — or forge something stronger.
Our process helps you come through them with greater clarity, calm, and understanding. That internal shift becomes the fuel for external change.
You’ll learn how to transform the crucibles in your relationship — not just once, but whenever they arise.
Taught live to over 50,000 people. Now available online, anytime, anywhere.
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Use it whenever you need it
You don’t have to wait for a breakthrough. The Resilience Academy is available on demand — online, 24/7, and judgment-free.
Log in anytime, use our 7-step worksheet to work through challenges, and shift your perspective in minutes.
And the first course is free.
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Resilience Academy Founder, Andy Bernstein
“I needed practical tactics for changing my behavior. I turned to Andy Bernstein. How was insight different from just understanding something on an intellectual level? I would soon find out…”
Samantha Dunn in “O: The Oprah Magazine”
Andy Bernstein’s story
The Ring of Fire
Johnny Cash famously called love “a ring of fire”. You know how it goes: It burns, burns, burns…
It’s easy to think the solution is to extinguish the fire, but actually the best relationships don’t do that.
Instead, they manage the fire — lowering the destructive flames while keeping the creative ones alive.
How do you do that? I spent years exploring different processes. Then in the spring of 2000, I met self-help pioneer Byron Katie, and discovered a tool that could turn fire into clarity. I worked closely with Katie for three life-changing years to share it with others.
But some of my friends didn’t connect with her approach, so in 2004, I left Katie’s company and started building something similar — but different.
I could explain how it works, but you’ll get more from trying it first. That’s why the introductory course is free.
If it resonates, we can go deeper — taming fires in your marriage, family, workplace, and more. This has helped thousands of people escape the ring of fire.
Will it help you?
The only way to know is to try it yourself.
Sincerely,
Andy Bernstein
REAL TESTIMONIALS. REAL CHANGE.
What People Are Saying
“Excellent. Practical. It literally helped me instantly see and move forward without stress on what’s been a very difficult and stressful situation. Thank you!”
Jeff S.
“Really hit the mark for me. This will reduce the time I spend spinning my wheels. Tremendously helpful to reframe issues.”
Heidi R.
“This helped me reflect heavily on my marriage. Immensely valuable.”
Glenn F.
“Great training. An entirely new way to look at managing difficult situations.”
Annie H.
“In the last few years, my wife and I have gone through some challenging issues (lost a son, chronic back pain, stage 4 cancer). I found this to be very helpful and look forward to learning more.”
Jim W.
“Extremely helpful and applicable personally and professionally.”
Rachel T.
THE Book
Breaking the Stress Cycle
“Masterful… I’ve never read a more useful book about managing stress — I’ve made it required reading for some of the people who matter most to me.”
– Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again
You can find Andy’s book (originally titled The Myth of Stress) wherever books are sold — in paperback, Kindle, and audiobook, which Andy narrated.
But you know you’re probably not going to read it. So instead, start the online interactive version for free!
A Sneak Peek Inside Level 1
GET a re-education in TRANSFORMATION
Break Through the Myth of Stressors
Learn how a single researcher created the modern stress concept — and why he refused to admit his big mistake.
Discover the Power of Crucibles
Watch a group of men recovering from addiction face a crucible together — and come out transformed.
Experience Your First Worksheet
Don’t just learn about breakthroughs. Have one yourself using our 7-step interactive worksheet. This is the best way to evaluate how this approach can help you.
Bring This Toolkit Into Your Life
Get answers to common questions, hear stories of real change, and receive a few special bonuses encouraging you to keep going on your resilience journey.
FAQ
Is this therapy?
No. Aaron Beck, the founder of CBT, wrote a strong endorsement of Andy’s book (“an outstanding guide”), and CBT therapists have used our worksheet with their patients, but anyone can use this tool to unlock transformational insights in 7 steps.
What if I want my spouse/partner to do it?
Our suggestion is to start by trying it for yourself. Then instead of a judgment (“YOU need this”), it’s an invitation — something you can learn together. We offer a discount for couples ready to “level-up” their relationship (and the second course can help enormously). But the first course is free so you can test it out.
How long does the course take?
The first course takes around 30 minutes to complete. It’s divided into short audio lessons that you can listen to whenever you have time.
How do I know if this process will work for me?
Everyone is different, but we can say roughly that for every 100 people who try this, 15% find it “life-changing,” 75% find it “enlightening but want more time to test it,” and 10% find it “not for me.” Our goal isn’t to persuade that last 10%. We want to help the 90% thrive — but we can’t predict who that is. The first course is free so you can stay skeptical and try it for yourself.
30 Minutes to a Clearer Head
Go beyond stress management to experience something deeper.
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