Want to change the world? Share your story.
Sharing your stories of change helps you mark progress and inspires others to change too.
In the space below, tell your story by reflecting on the following:
• What you were stressed out by — what was bothering you?
• What effect was this having in your life?
• What worksheet topic did you do?
• What did you realize?
• How did you lead change?
• What happened as a result?
Here’s an example:
What you were stressed out by — what was bothering you?
For years, I’ve been convinced that my girlfriend needed to change. She rarely lets me know what she is feeling, and I thought it was my job to help her be more expressive.
What effect was this having in your life?
We are both continually frustrated with each other.
What worksheet topic did you do?
I did a worksheet on “She should be more expressive.”
What did you realize?
For the first time, I could actually see her. I could see her fears, her upbringing, her parents, past experiences that had shaped her. I could see her sincere attempts to try to be more expressive, and ways in which she just expresses herself differently than I do. I could also see my behavior for what it really was and is — bullying. Manipulation. It may have been well-intentioned, but it was all about me and my needs, and so disrespectful of her ability to express herself in the way she wanted to at the pace she wanted to.
How did you lead change?
I sincerely apologized, and I promised I would do what I needed to to stay clear-headed going forward.
What happened as a result?
Amazingly, she expresses herself more now that I don’t push, nag, and make her feel inadequate, and I can express my own needs in a way that is kinder and less judgmental. I wish I had done this worksheet years ago. It’s like finally getting glasses for my brain.
Now it’s your turn. Submit your story below. We may reach out to ask questions. Stories may also be edited for clarity and have any identifying information removed before being shared on the Resilience Academy site.