Calmer. Clearer. Happier.

The Resilience Academy teaches you a practical new way to transform challenges and live a happier life. It’s not therapy, meditation, or stress management. Watch the video to see how it works.

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“An excellent introduction to resiliency. If practiced well, it can tremendously reduce the burden of stress at work and home.”


“A clear, concise way to deal with challenges, with practical applications and immediate results.”


“Groundbreaking. This was the first time I’ve been given a logical, step-by-step process to change without it being intimidating or New Agey.”


“I’m more stressed out than I used to be, but I don’t know how to change that.”

My name is Andy Bernstein, and I’ve taught thousands of people a new way to understand stress. There’s no stigma or jargon. You don’t even have to speak, but it can help your whole family life happier lives. And it’s available online for free.

If you’re open to a new tool in your toolkit, see for yourself why people find this approach “eye-opening,” “enlightening,” and “immediately useful.”

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Discover a completely new way to understand stress

Originally published as The Myth of Stress

“A masterful guide to rethinking the so-called stressors in your life. I’ve never read a more useful book about managing stress — I’ve made it required reading for some of the people who matter most to me.”

– Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of THINK AGAIN and host of the TED podcast WorkLife


Frequently Asked Questions

No. There are therapists who use this tool (Aaron Beck, the founder of CBT, strongly endorsed Andy’s book on stress), but this is a lay process that can help anyone open-minded live a happier life.

They don’t make a lot of sense out of context. The best way to answer this is to try it for yourself.

But if you insist on an answer, the 7 steps help you take something you are angry or upset about, distill it down to a single statement like, “They should appreciate me more,” and then take a closer look at the situation. This generates an insight or breakthrough that shifts how you think, feel, and then lead change.

No. You watch videos and follow along on screen. You don’t say a word.

No. You watch short, engaging videos that teach you a different way to understand stress, and how this process works. Then you do this process for yourself using an interactive training app. You don’t speak. You just follow along on screen, and move your mind step by step in a very specific way. It’s similar to times when you may have thought one thing and then realized you were mistaken and you suddenly saw your situation through new eyes. This 7-step process reproduces that experience of a shift in thinking, or insight, but really the best way to understand it is to try it.

Not really. You don’t close your eyes, focus on your breath, or try to cultivate awareness. With your eyes open, you take something that bothers you and test the way you see it using specific, provocative questions. It’s a re-framing process, and it moves sequentially, like a yoga class or workout. It’s less like meditation and more like if Cognitive Therapy and CrossFit had a baby. You get a workout, but for your mind.

Of course, there are meditators who use this tool too, and there are people who consider this a type of meditation. But it’s a standalone technique that can complement whatever else you do.

The first exercise you are going to do is a beginner topic on relationships. If you find the process useful and you want to go further, you can join the Resilience Academy and learn how to apply this toolkit to marriage, family dynamics, parenting, health challenges, social change, and more. There’s a lot more coaching and training online, and the content gets more challenging as your skills improve. All of it is available without your saying anything or going anywhere. This helps you become a better spouse, parent, leader, etc. in a surprisingly private and convenient way.

Great question. Here’s another question: What happens when you try to change people’s behaviors but leave the same thinking in place? They tend to go back to their old behaviors pretty quickly. We sincerely share your interest in external change. We just believe that focusing on internal changes in how people think is a more reliable way to get there, and makes the external changes stick.

You should try it first. Then you can approach them authentically and see if they might be open to trying it too.

It’s time for a better toolkit

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